Meet John-Isaac and Courtney

This special, first collaborative blog features descriptions of each other, each authored by the other. For you slow ones out there (you know who you are), this means that John-Isaac (aka, jC) described Courtney, and Courtney described John-Isaac.

About Courtney:
Courtney is the most vibrant, vivacious, sexy, spontaneous, intelligent, and outgoing woman I have ever met. I'm sure there's additional adjectives I could easily list but I'd likely go on for quite awhile. Courtney's personality is definitely multi-faceted and it's only fair in describing her to discuss the side the world sees and the side that only I get to see...

What the world sees...
The world sees Courtney as a beautiful, strong-willed and outgoing woman; someone who knows what she wants and vigorously defends her opinions and decisions. She has a strong, and at times, hard exterior which is sometimes misinterpreted by others as uncaring. She has a strong sense of what she believes is right and wrong and a desire to be treated fairly and as an equal. She is very proud of what she has accomplished thus far in her life and motivated to pursue what she believes is the right path for her.

Courtney puts little stock in being politically correct, conventional, or "proper", instead living very openly and with freedom. What other people think or say about her matters little and her own moral compass always sets her direction. She is an incredibly social person and never hesitates to strike up a conversation with a complete stranger. She is comfortable communicating her wants and desires and wears her emotions on her sleeve. She is remembered as being vivacious, filled with energy and someone who loves living life to the fullest.

What I see...
I see an amazingly beautiful woman with boundless energy and potential and someone I can call my equal in every way. While strong-willed and stubborn, she tenaciously clings to what she wants and what she feels is right. This unflinching belief in what she believes is right for her is a strong quality and one I deeply admire. Notwithstanding, Courtney is willing to entertain any argument and even change her position if proven wrong (which of course ONLY occurs in the light of clear, irrefutable, and incontrovertible evidence).

While others may be shocked to hear it, Courtney can be the kindest, most caring, and sensitive woman I have ever met. Her love and care for my three children and ability and willingness to bond instantly with them amazed me. They took to her unlike anything I've ever seen and even referred to her as "Mom". Within the first month of being with them, my oldest daughter was creating us "Happy Wedding" cards with hand-drawn images of Courtney and I being married with her standing next to us. I don't think it takes a child psychologist to interpret the acceptance and love that is felt for her by them! Furthermore, Courtney has a deep capacity to care for others and a strong desire to put their interests before her own. She is always planning or suggesting fun activities that they will enjoy and uses her feminine wiles to persuade me to agree when necessary.

From the moment Courtney and I met, there was an instant and inextinguishable connection that immediately drew me to her. She clearly lives with intensity and her ability to communicate so openly with me was unlike anything I had ever experienced. In fact, the first night we talked, we were both amazed at how openly honest we were with each other; sharing things we typically never shared with previous partners over the course of the entire relationship. This connection extends through every aspect of our relationship. While our different life experiences gives us each our own unique perspective, we both appreciate this variance as it is often complementary.

She is without a doubt the woman I have always wanted and needed. I have never loved someone with as much passion or been loved the same in return. The highest of highs and lowest of lows are all within the spectrum of our relationship but I wouldn't have it any other way. For the first time I look forward to spending my life with a partner who I deeply love, for who she is and can be. People often talk about wanting a "perfect" partner, all the while forgetting that it is the combination of our strengths AND weaknesses that define who we are. With Courtney, I can truly say I love her completely.

jC

About John-Isaac:
Despite being the most intelligent, attractive, goal-oriented, logical, multi-talented man I have ever had a relationship with, he is also the most loving, affectionate, and patient partner I ever will have. Needless to say, he will be the last man that I date, and the only man I will ever marry. I suppose some could say that I'm being naive in saying that he will be the last man I will ever be with since I am younger than he, but it is true. I suppose if something ever were to happen between us, I shall turn to women due to the fact no other man in my life would ever compare to jC.

I will never find a better companion than John-Isaac who withstands my very temperamental, inpatient, and even sometimes very selfish nature. AND THATS A FACT. :)

It's very appropriate to say he makes me feel secure and safe, and it's very comforting to know that when I make a mistake, it's okay. Also, with him being older than me, he has more life experience, so I don't necessarily have to make a mistake to learn, I can learn from his past mistakes. :) (The easy way to learn things.) jC shows me different views on every situation, and it's good to know we can disagree on some things and thats perfectly fine. That is life. :)

I guess one could say the way we met wasn't the most conventional or meaningful, at a club where alcohol was involved. But what I say to that is moving across the country with a man you just met 2 weeks earlier isn't very conventional either. Our relationship is not considered to be the most traditional, stereo-typed, or even the most straight-laced on the block; but it is considered to be the most radical, unique, and destined. Ask anyone! :)

I must admit to you, that when John-Isaac told me he was divorced and had 3 kids that we would be receiving in a nice lovely package for the summer, I was a bit wary of the idea. I NEVER WANTED TO BE THE EVIL STEPMOM. Although, It was exhausting, and tested my patience frequently, I grew to love them very fast, and their dad even faster. Needless to say, with their father it was love at first site, but seeing him with his children, I grew to love him even more for other attributes that are only shown when young souls are present. And by the time, summer was over, they had been calling me "mom" and "stepmom", and I found myself not wanting to take them back home. I can't wait for this Summer. :)

I think we are very lucky, in the fact that we got a preview on our parenting ways, while we had his kids this summer. Our parenting styles mesh very well together, and while we agree in discipline, we know its okay to not sweat the small stuff. I believe having the same values when it comes to parenting is a HUGE deal, and I also ultimately feel that not having the same morals can eventually hurt the relationship. Constantly going against each other is not healthy, and it's not good for the children to see that there is no union between their parents.

Our age difference comes into play during certain situations but had never been a problem. And yes! We have heard it all, from many of my friends, and many of his friends, that we "couldn't possibly work out" due to decade in difference. Well, I am here to say, "WATCH US!"

And it basically boils down to the simple, undeniable fact that, "We are meant to be!"

-c